What is addiction?

Addiction in the New Psychology of DREVO

In the New Psychology of DREVO, addiction is viewed as a condition in which a person gradually loses the freedom to control themselves, and the satisfaction of one need begins to subjugate other aspects of life.

Addiction can be to substances, activities, relationships, technologies, or other sources of strong reinforcement.

Its main feature is not the object of addiction itself, but that a person loses the ability to choose freely.

Addiction is a persistent condition in which the desire for a particular substance, activity, person, or experience begins to prevail over a person's conscious choice, personal values, and long-term interests.

It is the loss of inner freedom that distinguishes addiction from ordinary habit.

How does addiction occur?

Addiction develops gradually.
Typically this process goes through several stages.
Interest.
A person gains new experience.
Repetition.
The experience begins to bring pleasure, relief, or a sense of security.
Habit.
The behavior becomes regular.
Need.

It becomes difficult for a person to do without this source of satisfaction.

Loss of freedom.

Behavior begins to control a person, and not a person - his behavior.

Why does addiction occur?

In the New Psychology DREVO, addiction is seen as a result of a disturbance in internal balance.

It can be aggravated by a combination of several factors.

Biological reasons

Certain substances or behaviors can activate the brain's reward systems.

In addition, hereditary predisposition, metabolic characteristics and health conditions can have an impact.

Psychological reasons

A person may be looking for a way to reduce:

anxiety;
loneliness;
internal pain;
feeling of emptiness;
stress;
emotional stress.

If addiction temporarily alleviates feelings, there is a risk of it becoming entrenched.

Social reasons

Of great importance are:

environment;
family relationships;
culture;
availability of the dependency object;
stressful environment;
lack of support.

Existential reasons

For some people, addiction becomes an attempt to fill an inner emptiness, a lack of meaning in life, or a loss of direction.

This is not always the main reason, but for some people this factor does play an important role.

Types of dependencies

Addiction can manifest itself in different ways.

For example:

alcoholic;
nicotine;
narcotic;
gaming;
digital;
social media addiction;
shopping addiction;
food;
emotional dependence;
workaholism.

Despite the differences in form, they are united by the gradual loss of freedom of choice.

Dependence and freedom

In the DREVO philosophy, freedom means a person’s ability to consciously manage their life.

Addiction gradually limits this ability.

The subconscious begins to demand a familiar source of satisfaction.

Consciousness is finding it increasingly difficult to make independent decisions.

The will weakens.

Therefore, addiction is seen as a violation of the individual’s inner freedom.

Is it possible to overcome addiction?

Yes.

But overcoming is rarely just a matter of giving up the object of dependence.

It is important to restore the entire personality system.

This may include:

medical care;
psychotherapy;
family and community support;
developing new habits;
health promotion;
restoration of the meaning of life;
development of will;
participation in creative activities.

The more healthy sources of joy and meaning appear in a person’s life, the easier it is for him to give up destructive addiction.

The main principle

A person does not strive for dependence itself.

He is trying to satisfy some important need.

If you can understand this need and find a healthier way to meet it, the path to recovery becomes much more realistic.

True liberation begins not with fighting addiction, but with restoring inner freedom.

Definition

Addiction is a state of loss of inner freedom, in which the desire for a certain substance, action, person or experience begins to control a person’s behavior, limiting their ability to make conscious choices.

In the New Psychology of DREVO, addiction is viewed as a disruption in the coordinated functioning of the body, psyche, consciousness, will, values, and social connections. Recovery begins with restoring the ability to independently choose the direction of one's life.

Free is not the one who can get everything he wants. Free is the one who can control his desires, not be controlled by them.

What is aggression?

Aggression in the New Psychology of DREVO

In the New Psychology of DREVO, aggression is viewed as a natural psychophysiological reaction of mobilization that arises in response to a threat, obstacle, injustice, or violation of important human needs.

Aggression in itself is neither good nor evil.

This is the energy of action.

It can be aimed at both destruction and protection, restoration of justice and overcoming difficulties.

What matters most is not the presence of aggression, but how a person manages it.

What is aggression?

Aggression is a state of heightened mobilization of the body and psyche, aimed at overcoming an obstacle, protecting oneself, one's loved ones, one's values, or achieving a significant goal.

During aggression, the body switches to active action mode.
The heartbeat accelerates.
Muscle tone increases.
Concentration of attention is enhanced.
The body is preparing to act.

Why is aggression necessary?

Without aggression, a person would not be able to:

protect your life;
protect the child;
defend personal boundaries;
overcome danger;
fight against injustice;
persistently achieve difficult goals.

Thus, aggression is part of the survival system and active behavior.

Why does aggression arise?

Aggression can arise for various reasons.

For example:

real threat;
feeling of injustice;
violation of personal boundaries;
fear;
chronic stress;
physical pain;
strong disappointment;
feeling of powerlessness;
prolonged emotional stress.

Sometimes aggression becomes a way to hide deeper feelings, such as anxiety, shame, or feelings of vulnerability.

Aggression and violence

In New Psychology DREVO these concepts are distinguished.

Aggression- this is the internal energy of mobilization.

Violence- this is a way of expressing it that causes unjustified harm to another person.

Not all aggression leads to violence.

A person can use his inner strength to:

protection;
sports;
creativity;
persistent work;
leadership;
social activities.

A mature personality knows how to transform aggression into creative action.

Aggression and will

When aggression is driven solely by emotions, a person risks acting impulsively.

When aggression is controlled by consciousness, will and values, it becomes a source of courage, determination and the ability to defend life.

Willpower does not suppress aggression.

She helps to direct it in a constructive direction.

Suppressed aggression

Constantly suppressing aggression can also be harmful.
A person stops protecting his boundaries.
Afraid to say no.
Accumulates internal tension.
Or one day experiences an uncontrollable emotional outburst.

Therefore, the task is not to eliminate aggression, but to develop the ability to express it safely and responsibly.

How to transform aggression?

In the New Psychology of DREVO, aggression is seen as energy that can be directed.

This is helped by:

physical activity;
open dialogue;
development of self-control;
protection of personal boundaries;
creativity;
socially useful activity;
conflict resolution training;
development of emotional maturity.

Energy that could have become destructive can be transformed into a creative force.

The main principle

Aggression is not given to man for destruction.

It is given to protect life and overcome obstacles.

Personal maturity is determined not by the absence of aggression, but by the ability to manage it while maintaining respect for oneself, other people, and human dignity.

Definition

Aggression is a natural psychophysiological reaction of the body's mobilization that occurs when a threat, obstacle, or violation of significant needs is perceived and is intended for active defense, overcoming difficulties, or restoring justice.

In DREVO's New Psychology, aggression is viewed as a source of inner strength that can be directed toward either destruction or creation. The direction of this strength is determined by a person's consciousness, will, values, and responsibility.

It's not aggression that makes a person dangerous. It's the inability to control one's own power that makes one dangerous.

What is loneliness?

Loneliness in the New Psychology of DREVO

In the New Psychology DREVO, loneliness is viewed as the experience of a lack of deep connection with other people, oneself, nature, society, or life meaning.

Loneliness is not determined by the number of people around you.
A person can be alone and feel inner peace.
And he can be among thousands of people and feel deep loneliness.

Therefore, loneliness is, first of all, a state of internal connection, and not physical isolation.

What is loneliness?

Loneliness is a psychological experience of loss or lack of significant connections, in which a person feels separated from other people, the world, or oneself.

The main reason for loneliness is not the lack of communication, but the lack of a sense of true understanding, acceptance and belonging.

Why does loneliness arise?

In New Psychology DREVO, loneliness can arise for various reasons.

Destruction of social ties

Loss of loved ones.
Divorce.
Moving.
Insulation.
Conflicts.
Rejection.
All of these events can weaken the sense of belonging.

Losing touch with yourself

Sometimes a person stops understanding:
who is he;
what does he want;
what does he live for?
In this case, inner loneliness arises.

Even good relationships with other people are not always able to completely eliminate it.

Loss of common values

True intimacy is built on more than just time spent together.

It is built on trust, respect, mutual understanding and common meanings.

When these foundations disappear, a person can feel lonely even when close to loved ones.

Modern lifestyle

The development of digital technologies has significantly increased the number of contacts.

But the amount of communication does not always mean the depth of the relationship.

Sometimes a person receives a lot of messages, but rarely feels that he is truly understood.

Loneliness and the body

Loneliness affects more than just the psyche.

It may be accompanied by:

chronic stress;
sleep disturbance;
increased anxiety;
decreased energy;
deterioration of general well-being.

Research shows that long-term social isolation may be associated with poor physical and mental health.

Useful solitude and painful loneliness

In the New Psychology DREVO, two states are distinguished.

Solitude- this is a voluntary stay alone with oneself.

It helps a person to relax, reflect, learn, create and better understand himself.

Loneliness— is an experience of internal lack of connection that a person does not choose and which is often accompanied by pain.

Solitude develops.

Loneliness can be draining.

How to overcome loneliness?

Overcoming loneliness doesn't start with increasing the number of people you meet.

It starts with rebuilding real connections.

Useful:

develop friendship;
participate in community life;
help other people;
find common interests;
spend time in nature;
engage in joint creative work;
learn to talk openly about your feelings;
reconnect with your own values and meaning.

Sometimes the support of a psychologist or psychotherapist is also necessary, especially if loneliness is associated with bereavement, depression or social anxiety.

Loneliness and development

Paradoxically, the experience of loneliness sometimes becomes the beginning of deep internal changes.

It is during such periods that a person can:

get to know yourself better;
reconsider values;
change your lifestyle;
find a new purpose;
build more mature relationships.

It is not loneliness itself that develops a person.

It is how he goes through this experience that develops him.

The main principle

A person develops through connections.
Connection with yourself.
With loved ones.
With society.
With nature.
With culture.
With the future.
The deeper these connections, the more stable the personality becomes.

Definition

Loneliness is a psychological state that occurs when one feels a lack of meaningful connections with others, oneself, society, nature, or purpose in life.

In the New Psychology of DREVO, loneliness is seen as a signal of the need to restore relationships, mutual understanding and inner integrity, and not as an immutable personality trait.

A person is like a tree. One tree can stand alone, but a true forest emerges through connections. Similarly, a person becomes truly strong not when they completely dispense with others, but when they are able to build deep, free, and creative relationships.