What is loneliness?

What is loneliness?

Loneliness in the New Psychology of DREVO

In the New Psychology DREVO, loneliness is viewed as the experience of a lack of deep connection with other people, oneself, nature, society, or life meaning.

• Loneliness is not determined by the number of people around you.
• A person can be alone and feel inner peace.
• And he can be among thousands of people and feel deep loneliness.

Therefore, loneliness is, first of all, a state of internal connection, and not physical isolation.

What is loneliness?

Loneliness is a psychological experience of loss or lack of significant connections, in which a person feels separated from other people, the world, or oneself.

The main reason for loneliness is not the lack of communication, but the lack of a sense of true understanding, acceptance and belonging.

Why does loneliness arise?

In New Psychology DREVO, loneliness can arise for various reasons.

Destruction of social ties

• Loss of loved ones.
• Divorce.
• Moving.
• Insulation.
• Conflicts.→
• Rejection.
• All of these events can weaken the sense of belonging.

Losing touch with yourself

• Sometimes a person stops understanding:
• who is he;
• what does he want;
• what does he live for?
• In this case, inner loneliness arises.

Even good relationships with other people are not always able to completely eliminate it.

Loss of common values

True intimacy is built on more than just time spent together.

It is built on trust, respect, mutual understanding and common meanings.

When these foundations disappear, a person can feel lonely even when close to loved ones.

Modern lifestyle

The development of digital technologies has significantly increased the number of contacts.

But the amount of communication does not always mean the depth of the relationship.

Sometimes a person receives a lot of messages, but rarely feels that he is truly understood.

Loneliness and the body

Loneliness affects more than just the psyche.

It may be accompanied by:

• chronic stress;
• sleep disturbance;
• increased anxiety;
• decreased energy;
• deterioration of general well-being.

Research shows that long-term social isolation may be associated with poor physical and mental health.

Useful solitude and painful loneliness

In the New Psychology DREVO, two states are distinguished.

Solitude- this is a voluntary stay alone with oneself.

It helps a person to relax, reflect, learn, create and better understand himself.

Loneliness— is an experience of internal lack of connection that a person does not choose and which is often accompanied by pain.

Solitude develops.

Loneliness can be draining.

How to overcome loneliness?

Overcoming loneliness doesn't start with increasing the number of people you meet.

It starts with rebuilding real connections.

Useful:

• develop friendship;
• participate in community life;
• help other people;
• find common interests;
• spend time in nature;
• engage in joint creative work;
• learn to talk openly about your feelings;
• reconnect with your own values ​​and meaning.

Sometimes the support of a psychologist or psychotherapist is also necessary, especially if loneliness is associated with bereavement, depression or social anxiety.

Loneliness and development

Paradoxically, the experience of loneliness sometimes becomes the beginning of deep internal changes.

It is during such periods that a person can:

• get to know yourself better;
• reconsider values;
• change your lifestyle;
• find a new purpose;
• build more mature relationships.

It is not loneliness itself that develops a person.

It is how he goes through this experience that develops him.

The main principle

• A person develops through connections.
• Connection with yourself.
• With loved ones.
• With society.
• With nature.
• With culture.
• With the future.
• The deeper these connections, the more stable the personality becomes.

Definition

Loneliness is a psychological state that occurs when one feels a lack of meaningful connections with others, oneself, society, nature, or purpose in life.

In the New Psychology of DREVO, loneliness is seen as a signal of the need to restore relationships, mutual understanding and inner integrity, and not as an immutable personality trait.

A person is like a tree. One tree can stand alone, but a true forest emerges through connections. Similarly, a person becomes truly strong not when they completely dispense with others, but when they are able to build deep, free, and creative relationships.