Why does a person suffer?

Suffering in the New Psychology of DREVO

In the New Psychology of DREVO, suffering is not seen as a punishment or a meaningless accident.

Suffering is a signal.

It informs a person that harmony has been disturbed at one or more levels of his life.

Just as physical pain warns of damage to the body, psychological suffering indicates the need to pay attention to an internal or external problem.

Suffering becomes the language in which life communicates to a person the need for change.

The main causes of suffering

Violation of integrity

A human being consists of interconnected levels.
Body.
Subconscious.
Psyche.
Consciousness.
Will.
Soul.
Spirit.
Values.
Social connections.
Environment.
When a deep contradiction arises between them, internal tension appears.
The greater the gap, the greater the suffering.

Conflict between reality and expectations

A person often suffers not only because of what is happening, but also because of the discrepancy between what is and how he would like the world to be.

Not every disappointment can be resolved, but a person is able to learn to understand the situation in a new way, change their actions and look for ways to adapt.

Conflict of values

When a person regularly acts contrary to his own conscience and deepest convictions, an internal conflict arises.

This contradiction gradually weakens the sense of integrity and may be accompanied by anxiety, guilt, or loss of meaning.

Unmet needs

The body and psyche need:

Long-term failure to satisfy important needs can become a source of suffering.

Loss of meaning

A person is capable of enduring great difficulties if he understands what he lives for.

When the sense of meaning disappears, even an outwardly prosperous life can feel empty.

Destruction of relationships

Man develops among people.

Loneliness, betrayal, violence, loss of loved ones and long-term conflicts can cause deep psychological pain.

Therefore, the quality of relationships is one of the most important components of psychological health.

Illness and physical pain

Suffering may have physiological causes.
Injuries.
Chronic diseases.
Disorders of the nervous or hormonal system.
Psychological and biological causes often interact with each other.

Therefore, caring for your health is part of caring for your mental health.

Development through overcoming

Not every suffering is the result of a mistake.

Sometimes difficulties accompany learning, growing up, mastering a new skill, or overcoming life's challenges.

Such experiences can become a source of growth if a person receives support, maintains meaning, and gradually finds ways to cope with them.

Is it possible to completely get rid of suffering?

Suffering is a part of human life.

It is impossible to live life without ever encountering loss, mistakes, illness, or uncertainty.

However, a person is capable of changing their attitude towards difficulties, learning to cope with them and reducing the suffering that arises from destructive habits, conflicts or lack of meaning.

Psychology does not strive to eliminate all difficulties, but to develop the ability to live fully despite them.

Transforming suffering into development

In the New Psychology of DREVO, suffering becomes a point of choice.
A person can:
break down;
run away;
blame;

or understand the reason for what is happening, change yourself and start a new stage of development.

It is this choice that determines the future path of the individual.

The main principle

Suffering in itself does not make a person stronger.
A person develops by how he responds to suffering.
Awareness.
Acceptance of responsibility.
Search for solutions.
Support from other people.
Creative actions.
They are the ones who turn pain into a source of growth.

Definition

Suffering is a psychophysiological and personal experience that occurs when a person's integrity is violated, important needs are not met, internal conflicts occur, illnesses occur, losses occur, or difficult life circumstances are encountered.

In the New Psychology of DREVO, suffering is viewed not as a goal in life or as a punishment, but as a signal that encourages a person to restore harmony, rethink their path, and continue to develop.

Suffering shows that something requires attention. But it is the person's conscious response that determines whether it becomes the beginning of destruction or the beginning of growth.

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